Teaching forgivness is an underrepresented skill in our culture. This blog is a helpful start to teaching others forgivness. The Different Levels of Forgiveness: Trait Forgiveness: a constant attitude to forgive (forgiving across multiple disciplines, occur across a variety of relationships) The expectation in an interpersonal relationship (dyadic forgiveness): forgiving across many offenses in the same relationship (marriage, [...]
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White Relationships
What is it like to have white relationships? What about white friends, family, co-workers, peers, and bosses? Questions to consider when you are involved in white relationships: Do they respect you? Do they stand up for you? Do they support your growth? Do they belittle your experiences of blackness? Do they ask the right questions [...]
Microaggressions in Psychology
I hardly recognized microaggressions in psychology, relationships, or experiences for most of my life - until I gained internal awareness.I felt aggression and underpinned racism weren’t existent in my life. I lived in a predominantly white American neighborhood, and most of my friends were white Americans. This was the life I felt comfortable and safe [...]
Students Experiencing COVID-19
As a Students Experiencing COVID-19, I have noticed a tendency to meet our professors' expectations rather than considering our own. To my understanding, professors are here to teach us the ways of the field. This is one perspective. Do students experiencing Covid-19 know how to ask for what they need? I hope we can adapt [...]
Do Students Need Therapy?
Do students need therapy? All students in graduate programs should be advised to seek therapy to promote individual growth. Always ask yourself why am I doing this? Graduate gatekeepers and practitioners can choose to advertise the pursuit of individual therapy for students. To this point, I believe all students in graduate programs (medical doctors, lawyers, [...]
Using Art to Heal
Using art to heal is a natural process of creative expression. In doing so I allow myself to live in my truth. It has been a difficult transition but also a beautiful journey towards authenticity. I have included an artistic meditative practice in my life to learn how to heal my inner child. I aim [...]
Empathy
How do you view empathy? Where have you drawn your connection to others from? How do you present this in therapy, in the workplace, in the classroom? “Empathy has no script. There is no right way or wrong way to do it. It’s simply listening, holding space, withholding judgment, emotionally connecting, and communicating that incredibly [...]
Let Your Emotions Manifest
It is challenging to let your emotions manifest if you are numb to your feelings. Emotions are experienced with all of our senses, and in return, they impact how our behaviors are presented. I often ask clients to share how their emotions influence their behaviors. Or, where, inside their bodies are they feeling the emotions, [...]
Queer Therapist
As a queer therapist, I often grapple with this question: how much of myself should I put aside to help others make sense of their insecurities about my chosen/ given identity? My initial response is to be kind and accepting of microaggressions with compassion and understanding. However, I realized their insecurities toward me were due [...]
Signs of a Good Therapist
I put together a list of 12 Signs that help you find a good therapist or determine if your current therapist is good for you. If you need support finding a therapist please send me a message! Characteristics of a supportive therapist or mental health practitioner are their desire to help people in need of [...]