Relationship expectations are a huge factor in how we experience love. The lack of awareness regarding one’s needs, goals, and wants makes expectations more of an illusion than a form of stability. The work I do with couples and individuals who are looking to grow in love has a heavy emphasis on individual identity exploration.
I teach you how to love your evolving identity while making room to support others. I have included a mini-expert from a previous blog post by our intern Laura Zozimus She has identified seven self-love questions you can ponder alone or with a close one.
If unsure where to start, schedule a free therapy consultation. We will work together to discover your strengths and needs. In the meantime, the self-work can begin now with the resources I shared below.
Excerpt from LOVE AND LUST: YOUR TRUTH
It all begins with focusing on one’s needs, making yourself a priority, knowing what you do not have enough, and giving yourself those needs, whether time, love, confidence, trust, motivation, etc. By replenishing one’s own life and needs, we align ourselves with what we want in our life.
A person should be complete with one’s self, and as a result, it enables you to find exactly what you are looking for, and then you can ponder over questions like,
7 Self-Love Questions to Ponder
- What am I looking for in life?
- What are my needs?
- How much time and energy am I ready to invest?
- Am I prepared to give the same in return?
- Do I have self-love first to receive and give love?
- Is there any part of my life that needs attention first?
- If so, how can I recognize it and work on it?
The questions are endless! Whether it may be love or lust, “you” are where it all starts! Put yourself first and focus, and think about who you are and what you want to attract in your life.
Relationship Expectations and Love Quotes
Expectations were like fine pottery. The harder you held them, the more likely they were to crack.Brandon Sanderson
We must rediscover the distinction between hope and expectation.Ivan Illich
I have no fear of losing you, for you aren’t an object of my property or anyone else’s. I love you as you are, without attachment, fears, conditions, and egoism, trying not to absorb you. I love you freely because I love your freedom and mine.Anthony de Mello